Monday, 23 January 2012

IN LOVING MEMORY OF MY MUM

Today is my mum's birthday. Yaaaaayyyyyyyyyyy. *dancing around* but I suddenly become sober . You would have been 60 years today mama, but you had to take a trip to heaven because you needed to rest. We miss you sooooo much, but we are learning to live without you. Daddy is waxing strong and we are taking very good care of him. You have three absolutely lovely grandsons now mum. You would be super proud of them and they would have enjoyed your company. You would especially love *Bunna. He is such a dramatic kid especially when compared to his brother *Ikem who is such a peaceful and plump darling. And they are both dark like you. :-). *Osato is a really playful baby and is fair just like his Aunty Che. ^_^.

My Sweet Mum *loads of love and hugss*
We are all doing well in our various professions and cannot thank God enough for His faithfulness in our lives. I remember the different things you used to say and I sometimes say them to my younger ones. Things like *Nchita alu (a lazy person who would notice things that need to be done, but would wait to be told before doing them), *Aka efe n'azu (literally meaning hands always at your back. But it's used when a person passes through a door without shutting the door). Whenever I'm about to wear my shoes with really high heels, I remember as you would say *Eji ntu aga ije (walking on nails) and mimic the way I walk on them. I do your funny dance often with *Somto and it just cracks me up cos I can picture you doing them. You would always say "come and learn how to cook, not when you get married, your husband and in-laws will say *Azurugi azu (you were not brought up properly)  :-D.. I could go on and on, but I chose to pause here. 

You were a very warm person. Oh boi, you were accommodating to a fault, so much so that we nicknamed you Madam Goodington. :-D. Loads of people can testify to your generosity and largeness of heart. You were also a super hardworking woman. You toiled to ensure that we never lacked anything. I remember talking with *Nneka years ago and saying that when we started working and earning fat salaries, we would buy you a limousine to cruise around with and we would also send you to yankee for vacations. LOL. 

I remember when you were diagnosed with Cervical Cancer three years ago. We were all so devastated and prayed earnestly for a miracle. We took you to one of the best hospitals and you started your treatment. You were responding positively, but at the end, you had to go and rest. 



I know you are in a much better place now. I'm grateful that you are free from all the pain, though i wish that you had stayed longer with us. I can just picture you chatting with God and His angels, sharing jokes and laughing heartily. We will always remember all you taught us and will keep making you proud. Keep jollificating in heaven Mum. We will meet with you much later after we have fulfilled our life"s purpose here. 

Forever in our hearts,
With lots of love,
Your (onye ocha) daughter, :-D
Che


P.S: There is a lot of awareness especially now as regards cancer in Nigeria. I would encourage everyone most especially the ladies to go for a pap smear and other tests. 

From Google: A Pap smear can detect certain viral infections (such as human papillomavirus[HPV]) and other cancer-causing conditions. Early treatment of these conditions can stop cervical cancer before it fully develops. A woman may have cervical cancer and not know it because she may not have any symptoms. 

Love you guys much. 
Muahhhhhhh 

46 comments:

  1. That was a great tribute to your wonderful mum and I'm sure you'll take comfort she's in a better place like you rightly said.

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    1. Thanks dear. Will visit your blog ASAP for more info on the campaign. It's really a nice initiative and I would help out in anyway I can.

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  2. Awww babes... I'm sure your mummy is looking down on all of you guys and smiling... I remember all the *free medication we all used to get from you at uni courtesy of your mum...

    And yeah, thanks for the tip about the cancer smear and I should also add that sites like this http://www.breastcancer.org/symptoms/testing/types/self_exam/ discuss how to self examine yourself against breast cancer as well.

    Hugs from me dear

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    1. Thanks love esp for the link you included. There's nothing like been aware of things and getting help if need be.

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  3. Aww, that got tears to my eyes. Moms are the best. My condolences to your family, she is indeed jollificating in heaven.

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    1. No be small jollificating ooo. :-D. Thanks dearie.

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  4. SHe IS stunning! That reminds, me sef. I'm due a smear test. I was told to come back as per they rubbished the last sample. I hate it but I will do it for your mum. Because she is a stunning Madam Goodington.

    And why are you gisting her of her grandchildren? SHe knows very very well. Remember, she's watching over you guys.

    RIP dear Mama. May angles sing you to your rest.

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    1. Yeah, she was a real asa nwa. Thanks dear. No mind those people that messed up your last sample. Awwwwww, glad to know my encouragement to get the test done worked. Hugs dear

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  5. God will grant her eternal rest in His bosom. Amen

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  6. Chukwu biko gozie, ochie dike Mama, nna gozie nne m, ochie dike nne! Your mom sounds like a trooper and she did good with you!
    May she continue to RIP.

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    1. That song brought tears to my eyes. Good tears oo, not sad ones. :-). She was such a character. Amen and thanks dearie.

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  7. Madam Goodington. Thats cute :-)
    Take consolation in knowing she is with God

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    1. If you had met her, you would have agreed with us in giving her that name. Thanks dear.

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  8. May she continue to RIP with the Lord

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  9. she is resting peacefully. Most of the things you said about her reminds me of my Mum too, nothing can compare to a mothers love aside that of God's love for us. although we cant see their faces (my mom as well) but we know they are smiling down on us saying everything is okay! cheers love and best wishes

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    1. Awwww, hugs dear. Mothers are really special people. I bet they are really proud of how we turned out.

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  10. i have tears in my eyes, a mum is irreplaceable...may she continue to rest ..hugs!

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    1. Awwwww, hugs love. I had tears in my eyes at some point too while I was writing this cos I remembered a lot of things about her. I didn't even know how to pen my thoughts down. Amen dear.

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  11. Am sure she is smiling down mighty proud of you all.

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  12. Your Mama had a very nice smile. I thank God for keeping you guys so far. It couldnt have been easy losing her.

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    1. Thanks dear. It was a big blow on us, but God has been soooo faithful and kind to us.

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  13. i dont even know what to say.
    Im sure shes very proud of you. may her soul rest in peace

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  14. beautiful tribute che *big hug and squeezing tightly*
    cheers!

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    1. Hugging you right back love. Thanks

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  15. Wonderful tribute to a mom that sounds to have been an amazing woman from the little you've shared. e-hugs and may her soul rest in peace.

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    1. Thanks dear. How are you and your family doing? Sure the little princess is enjoying the attention from her older sisters.

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  16. nice opinion, thanks for sharing...

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  17. Eya...totally relate to this piece. Lost my dad about 15 years ago and it was so hard not seeing him. Over time, we've adjusted by force but it took alot of time. But losing a parent(either mum or dad)is extremely hard to bear but guess u re coping well sha by God's grace. Don't wory it'll get easy over time but there'll be moments u'll ball ur eyes out cos u just want them around even if for one sec.

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    1. Thanks a lot dear. Thank God for keeping you and your family through the pain of losing your father.

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  18. You got me all teary eyed mehn, I can't imagine losing my mum so i can only imagine how you feel. I pray she rests in peace and lessons you learnt from her never be forgotten. God bless you dear (((((hugs)))))

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    1. Thanks dear. Hugging you right back.

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  19. Che nne, i totally understand what u are passing thru.
    Hmmmm, i would say i envy you (if i can say that). You had ur mom through ur formative years. I lost mine when i was 8! Yes 8 years ols and in primary 4. i still can see her face, i still can see her on her sick bed. none of my relatives believe me when i say i remember her. they all say 'you were so young when she died, there is no way u'll remember'. but i do remember her. She also used to say 'nchita alu' and 'aka efe na-azu' (which means 'hand never go back' not 'hand always at the back' like you wrote)

    It isnt an easy thing to lose a parent but losing a mum is so so much harder. Its well. God knows best.

    Nne, Chukwu kasie gi obi, ka o si n'akasi gi na mbu. Fi cha anya mmiri (that last part is also actually for me too cos i have tears in my eyes)

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    1. Wow, you lost your Mum @ a very tender age. Thank God for sustaining you and your family. It must have been really difficult then. Thanks for the correction dear and Amen to your prayers for us. Huggssss.

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  20. *hugs* Madam Goodington was apparently a beautiful woman inside and out. She also raised a wonderful daughter. I'm sure she's smiling down at you. May her soul continue to rest in peace

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    1. Amennnnn and thanks a lot hun.

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